Most husbands are eager enough to reprove, but few do it in meekness and moderation. They cannot do it but in company, not without bitter words . . . This being the preposterous practice of many husbands, is it any wonder that ordinarily so little good, and so much hurt is done by reproving? No, would it not be a wonder, if any good and no hurt should be done by it? This therefore, though it is a duty, it is a duty to be used rarely and with great moderation.

William Gouge, Building a Godly Home: A Holy Vision for a Happy Marriage, 223-224.